Therefore, remember this: every opinion always has a reason. That is why the first step is to listen attentively to differing perspectives, even when we find ourselves agreeing to disagree. Consequently, the second step is learning to engage in healthy arguments. This transcends mere conflict resolution; it delves into diverse viewpoints and fosters constructive communication, ensuring both parties are seen and heard (i.e., acknowledged and understood). Furthermore, it plays a pivotal role in nurturing personal and interpersonal growth, promoting open-mindedness and collaborative problem-solving. Now, let's explore how to have healthy arguments.

DOs

• Approach with respect: Licensed clinical psychologist Maria Thestrup, PhD, suggests that setting boundaries, such as agreeing to avoid toxic language, can facilitate positive and productive arguments and can demonstrate respect to others even during a disagreement. 

• Practise active listening: According to the American Psychological Association, active listening involves closely listening to others and asking questions to understand fully their intentions and emotions.

• Take a 'rain check': If one or both of you feel flooded with emotions of upset, anger, or fear during an argument, give each other a 'rain check'. Revisit the topic only after emotions have subsided.

DON'Ts

• Use hyperbolic terms like 'always' and 'never': Statements such as 'You always disapprove of my choices!' or 'You never acknowledge my feelings!' are exaggerations. They put others on the defensive, shifting their focus from listening to your concerns to countering your statements. 

• Walk away mid-argument: Stonewalling — when a person completely shuts down or disengages in the middle of an argument without warning — can cause others to feel abandoned or without support. Since the conflict is unresolved, they might also feel confused and even more frustrated.

• Disengage our body or eyes: We can sense so much of another's mood and attitude based on body language alone. Thus, we must keep our bodies and eyes physically engaged in an argument. When we turn away, tense up, redirect our eyes, cross our arms, or otherwise close off our bodies, we send the signal that we do not care about the matter at hand.

By agreeing to disagree through healthy arguments, perspectives may naturally evolve as both parties foster respectful dialogue and consider each other's viewpoints. As we learn to address differences constructively within our family, we strengthen our bonds and deepen our understanding of one another. And who knows, perhaps one day, you and that opinionated auntie might just see eye to eye.